My baby turned one last week! I’ve been trying to call her a toddler, because she really isn’t a baby any more, but it’s quite an adjustment. It is amazing how much a tiny human changes in 12 months.
When it came time to think about her first birthday party, I knew I wanted to keep it low-key, especially since it falls so soon after the holidays. The Frugalwoods party for Babywoods’ first birthday was an inspiration and validated that yes, it really is okay to have a simple celebration for your one-year-old. For me taking this approach was mostly about simplifying life and not creating unnecessary stress to put on an event that our child won’t even remember. (Saving $$ was a bonus!)
Our siblings and my mother-in-law do not live close to us, so the guest list consisted of me, my husband, my daughter, my father-in-law, and my mom. Unfortunately, my mom was sick, but we finally figured out Skype and she was able to join us virtually!
Our party agenda consisted of lunch, opening presents from Grandpa, and of course eating CAKE! Because first birthdays are all about the cake smash, right? I made the cake myself…and it was actually kind of fun. It turned out like a strawberry shortcake since I put fruit on top and made a whipped cream icing.
Parenting and Relationships
A moment from last weekend really made me reflect on how our relationships with our parents have grown during our child’s first year.
My father-in-law is not a man of many words, but I have loved watching his face light up when he interacts with our daughter. For her birthday, his gifts consisted of some classic books that belonged to my husband as a child, including Raggedy Ann, Raggedy Andy, and The Little Engine That Could. The titles also included a book of poems. He commented that he enjoys poetry and hopes it will be something she enjoys, too. My heart melted a little when he said that. Not only were his gifts frugal and useful, but they were incredibly heartfelt.
I already had a good relationship with my mom, but this past year I have valued her even more. My mom was truly meant to be a grandma. She is a nurturing, caring person by nature and also by career – she works in public health and deals with kids all the time. Though my mom does not have the financial means to spoil our daughter the way I’m sure she would like to, there is ZERO need from our perspective for her to do so. The best gift she can provide is her time and attention. Though she lives 2 1/2 hours away, we have focused on making sure we spend as much time with her as possible so that she can see her granddaughter grow and develop.
Fellow parents – what unexpected lessons did you learn from your child/children’s first year?